I can see that life is going on all around us even during this critical time that we are living.
Somehow a seed was planted in this small crevice and this plant grew despite it's location. It has had just enough nutrients and water to give it life.
Even when we have been planted in the middle of a crevice or two busy and very loud roads as where we live, we can still blossom.
The last eighteen months have been a trying time for many people but we can find balance. It may be organizing our household, business or talking with a friend to find that balance. A different perspective can help us when we are in the middle of a crisis.
This brings forward that we are here to love, to help, to nurture, to bring hope to others. When something very bad happens it is a shock, then time will pass because we cannot lasso it and hold it still. We will drift away from that time of crisis and no matter how difficult, we have to continue on.
I feel in my heart I am suppose to say what I am going to say here. I actually wrote another post to use after I wrote this one because this post is not a normal type of post I would do. But Charles gave me his opinion, you should use this post because it is a meaningful message so here it goes.
Many of us, maybe most of us, that have lived through some very difficult times with recessions, political differences and now a pandemic that is bad enough without all the extras has changed people to have a need to be right about their opinion. It is time to let go of the need to feel that we are right. "I am right" is harmful. It can be excused by calling it being very passionate about something but that is a cover up.
I personally had to do this, I was to a point of begging and even raising my voice, insisting that someone close to me do or not do something "I" felt was extremely important. It almost broke me because I just knew that "I" was right about this.
Even old folks can feel frustrated and disappointed in this confusing time we are living. I want to say I tried to be right but it did not feel right. Nothing about it felt right and the first thing I did was acknowledge that I was wrong to force my opinion in a frustrated way. We are imperfect people but it is no excuse to feel we must be right over someone else that feels different than we do.
But through prayer, I learned that I had to become quiet about this important matter to me. I had to pray harder than I ever have before, I had to find a place to work it out with God. At that moment I felt that I needed a tall mountain with no one around so they could not hear my cries.
In my mind, maybe I should call it my spirit or soul, or my message, but it came to me that we all make our own choices and no matter how much we love someone and want to protect them, they have their own life journey. It may be a long wonderful journey or long sad journey or it may be a very short journey but is their journey.
If we feel we are right about something and we insist this on them, we can push them into a corner to where they will become even more determined they will never do what this is you want them to do or not to do. We have to remember, we do not have this right to impose our need to be right on them or anyone.
I had a lot to learn.
These are grape seeds from a grape that was picked from a grapevine in our yard this morning. This grapevine that the grapes came from was started from a seed, it takes grapes a long time to grow to maturity.
This grapevine is starting to produce grapes now, it is not a large harvest but it is still becoming as it is suppose to become. We still care for it and give it what it needs but we cannot make it do what "we" want it to do.
Life is full of lessons and maybe we feel that we finally got it right after doing it wrong over and over and then something comes along that shows us that we are not there yet. At least it is better to understand this before it is too late.
It may take a lot of crying, it may take a lot of soul searching to get passed the need to feel right but most important is when we let it go we do just that.
It might be the most painful thing we have ever done to let go of the need to be right or even acknowledging that our ego is even like this. I had to remind myself that love does not insist to have its own way, love is caring to a deep level of even letting something go so that we are not interfering with another humans destiny.
Letting go of the need to be right is also very difficult and for myself disappointment with myself that I went that far as to get angry at someone that I love. Dropping it was giving up my strong concern which I had to come to terms with was also my strong opinion and need to feel I was right about this. I am using myself as an example because I have seen this over and over for so long now with the circumstances in our country, our world. I can do better and I need to check this one off our list of lessons learned.
To feel the need to be right includes many things, most anything from politics, religion, opinions about the news, opinions on how someone is dressed, this situation with the pandemic, any kind of opinion. If we let our ego push that we are right about something and feel that we have to "make" that person see our side is not showing love.
Saving more parsley seed.
Many years ago, when I was young, love for another family member or friend or neighbor seemed to be more natural than it is today. It was a caring love with empathy attached and it flowed easily. There was a look, a concern, a knowing that someone present was truly present with you and less interrupted as we are today.
It seems as if we have been entrapped into a modern web that has become so tangled that to save our lives it would be best to climb out to become human again. Learning to not "have to be right" does not mean we cannot have our own thinking or feelings or opinions, it just means we have turned it over and released it through prayer so that we can have a peaceful soul. We are not to judge.
It is possible to make drastic changes, we are all traveling from here to eternity and I know that I want to make it there to see my loved ones that have gone before me and those that will come later. If we can change us, we can bring peace, we can grow love and have a more settled spirit in a confusing world.
I have made a new video that you will find here. It is mostly about what we did last week and Charles wanting to revisit our studies of the world war 2 rationing. He found our small rationing pamphlet from 1942 with a recipe for dumplings and so this has been dumpling week. :) We ate dumplings three days in a row, with a different vegetable each time and we never got tired of it and understand why dumplings were a staple. So were corn dodgers but that is another story.
I hope you enjoy this video click here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kR5hJik7vqw
Grandma Donna
